Not “If” but “When”

I recently read an interview with Michael Strahan, former NFL football player, current TV personality, journalist and successful businessman, where he spoke about the invaluable lesson he learned from his father. Replace the word “If” in your vocabulary to “When.”
Michael’s father would always set him straight whenever he used the word If while talking about his dreams. “If I get a scholarship. If I make the NFL.” ” No, son, not if. When,” Gene (the father) would say. That mantra was repeated so often during Michael’s formative years that it became hardwired. And it clearly impacted Michael’s fulfilling his dreams and continues on today.

WOW! What a lesson he learned and what an impact those 2 words can have on one’s achievements. By reframing his words he adjusted and fine-tuned his philosophy on life. He affirmed what was to be and chose to believe it would come about.

We all get to choose. We can bring about what we think about. We can create our world. Whether you believe that to be your truth, is truly up to you.
The self-talk we engage in matters. To some reading this, switching 2 words may appear as insignificant. I encourage you to try it out. Work with it. Interchange them. See what happens.

I am not a clairvoyant, however I know the power our daily conversations with ourselves have on our Life. On what our outcomes are. On what happens. How are you talking to yourself? Are you a pessimist? A realist? An optimist? A victim? An achiever? 

How are you transforming your life in today’s environment? Or are you paralyzed by what is happening and feel stuck?

You can change it! It all starts with your self-talk and self care. Build yourself up. Empower yourself. Encourage yourself to try, experiment and risk. Sure the journey will be crooked, some trials and errors, detours, and u-turns. However, with persistence, determination, and affirming your intention, you will manifest your dreams and goals.

For they will come about. Hold steady on the goal, be clear on what it is you truly want. By referring to “when”, not “If,” you will identify all the possibilities and all the solutions that you need.

Your self-talk is key. As you become more aware of positive self-talk, you will realize it is a powerful tool for increasing your self-confidence and curbing negative emotions. People who can master positive self-talk are usually more confident, motivated, and productive.

So choose your words carefully as they definitely influence how you see things.
If you say “When” something happens, you imply it definitely will happen, though you may not know the precise timing. That is affirming it.
If you use “If” you imply that it may or may not happen. That is uncertainty. 

If” carries a connotation like something MAY happen, but there is a chance that it may not.
“When” denotes that it WILL happen, it is just a matter of at what point in time the event will carry itself out. 

Technically, “when” presupposes that it will happen, while “if” merely assumes possibility. IF vacillates between yes and no. WHEN affirms it will come about.

Since our objective is to speak to ourselves in the affirmative, “When” becomes your go to word, replacing any and all “If’s.”

With Light and Love,


2 Comments on “Not “If” but “When”

  1. Wow! It’s been 5 weeks and I’m just now catching up on your AMAZING blogs. This message is a powerful one! Thank you! When I become a well known healer in this world my soul will burst into the sun ☀️

    Love you,

    Kelly the Healer

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