We are all faced with how much control is the right amount to achieve our goals. We are driven to succeed. We want everything to be perfect. We oversee every detail to ensure it is so. However, sometimes we need to just “Let Go.” Let the process continue with our guidance.
Once we have put in the work, we should be able to release and allow for the completion. Do you? Do I? Sometimes not. I am continuing to learn that to be truly successful, we need to step back and allow. Let the project unfold the way it is suppose to. Which is not always the way we thought. When we realize that, we have an urgent tendency to FIx It. Breathe! Listen! Calm yourself! Detach! The answer will come to you.
And at that point you know that “Letting Go” is key. I have found that to be Flexible and Flowing, Adaptable and Adjustable, serve me well. Especially when you really do not control anything. There are situations that come up – totally beyond our control that if we try to “Fix”, we become angry, frustrated, stressed and overwhelmed.
I believe structure, strategies, plans and roadmaps are important as the starting point. They are tools. And we have control to make the appropriate revisions, adjustments and tweeks as necessary. And that is perfectly okay! In fact it is more okay than following the plan just because it is the plan that has become irrelevant. So, think things out. Write them down. But remember, you can delete, erase, change the color, change the size, start over!
You get to choose. That is where your control lies.
With Light and Love,
Let us always remember how powerful our attitude is, and to take a positive attitude into whatever is unfolding. I consciously choose to use the word opportunity versus problem when they arise. It is a subtle but powerful method that shifts my thinking.
(From “Take a Moment” Inspirational Darts to the Heart)
How do you see and interpret apparent problems?
How we view things forms our responses, directs our actions, and determines the outcome.
We need to set the right intention to achieve the right outcome. Things do not just happen. Somewhere in our consciousness or subconsciousness we had the thinking that determined the result.
We really cannot blame anyone else. We all do though, don’t we. Not every time, but sometimes. It takes practice, commitment, consistency, and determination to accept our responsibility.
Once we do that, all is possible. We change. We overcome. We thrive and prosper.
It is not that we only see the positive, only see the rainbow, only see one side. We take in all. However we decide how we want to continue. By seeing the opportunity in the problem, we create space for new thinking, new solutions, new ways of being and doing. The haze or fog gets lifted. We see things that we were unable to see before. We step out of our comfort zone and experiment. We are inspired and motivated to “Fix It”.
We know we can do it, even if others do not. So what? Let them be who they are. Do not let them deter you from succeeding.
You can do it. We all can. If we but shift our thinking and set our intention.
Here’s to your seeing the Opportunity in the Problem.
With Light and Love and Endless Opportunities,
Several years ago my husband and I were embarking on our move to San Francisco from Pasadena. Our house sold in record time! (3 days) We were undecided on which area of SF to move to. I was thinking about the areas around Golden Gate Park and the Outer Sunset neighborhoods. However we really didn’t know. And I needed to consider my commute downtown. So we thought we would take out a month to month short term lease on an apartment, search the neighborhoods during my month off between positions, and then move into our perfect right place. Due to limited time, I needed to sign for an executive apartment on Nob Hill sight unseen!!!!! My only info came off the internet.
To say I was nervous and had reservations puts it mildly. I almost flew up to see the place. Then I was given a message that sealed the deal.
I was turning in my phone and computer to the company I was retiring from, and while on the phone with the IT gal working through the process, she said to me – Karen, just continue trusting!!!!!
WOW! What a relevant message not only to what we were working on – but to my situation on taking the apartment sight unseen. Of course, one must do their due diligence, research, and fact finding.
And sure enough, sight unseen, we ventured up to our temporary apartment which was wonderful. From there we were able to daily scout the neighborhoods and decide where would be the best location to settle into life in SF.
The neighborhoods around Gold Gate Park and the Avenues were too foggy and too far of a commute. We loved the Nob Hill, Pacific Heights areas as well as the Presidio and Marina. We found our perfect place diagonally across from our temp place on Nob Hill!!!!! It was the ideal location, good floorplan, great view, reasonable walking commute to the office. It served us well for the time in SF.
Since that time, when I am faced with indecision, skepticism, or doubt, I hear the words – Continue trusting!
Sound advice for all of us.
With Love and Light,
We all appreciate being told “Good Job” from a boss, colleague, partner, friend. It feels good! It boosts our confidence. It makes us want to do more, do better, be better.
However at times, even though we know we have done a good job, no “Good Job” acknowledgement comes our way.
How does that make you feel? Do you get upset that they do not see it? Do you feel underappreciated, less than, angry? Do you want to change jobs, move away, discontinue the friendship or partnership?
Just because you know the importance of encouraging others, showing appreciation to others, and giving feedback, doesn’t mean that everyone does. For whatever reason, some people never learn the importance or the impact that a positive acknowledgement or compliment makes. Sure, as much as we want praise from others, it does not always happen.
What is most important is to acknowledge ourselves, say “Good Job” when we know that we have done well. Give yourself a pat on the back, a high five, a thumbs up, a “Yes!”.
We need to rely on our own selves to boost our confidence, acknowledge what we have done, be proud of who we are and who we are becoming.
Look inside yourself. That is where the truth lies. That is where your biggest admirer and critic is. And that is who is most important! How YOU view yourself. How YOU encourage yourself. How YOU inspire, motivate, and elevate yourself.
Don’t wait for others to give yourself that much deserved acknowledgement. Boost your own confidence! Celebrate you! Hug yourself! Love yourself!
With Light and Love,
Yes, speaking is an art form. When we speak we have the power to influence, motivate, inspire, assist, comfort, and encourage. We also through our words and tone, can harm, upset, bully, aggravate, and frighten.
Remember too that the Art of Communication relates to all forms – phone, twitter, facebook, instagram, emails, texts, all messaging vehicles. They all reflect your voice.
We have a choice!
We can decide how we want to speak to ourselves and to others.
Have what you say be in alignment with who you are.
Words are powerful.
I read an article earlier today which reminded me of how to best communicate. It discussed the Buddhist principles of Right Speech. The four elements of right speech means you use words that are true, balanced, necessary, and kind.
How do you interpret them?
Does that mean you never argue, never be loud, never be critical? I personally do not think so.
Based on the situation, you may have to raise your voice and speak in a more direct, harsher tone than usual. However what is important is your intention. You are doing so to “get through” to the other person. Not to harm them – but to break through the resistance they have to truly hear you. Do what is appropriate for the other party.
I make a practice of being careful with my words and my communications. Yes – it is a practice. I want always to be truthful, balanced, communicate what is necessary, and always be kind in my delivery. Do I succeed 100% of the time? No, I do not. Sometimes I am multitasking and in a rush and could come across as uninterested, short, and not as sensitive as I would like.
So I continue to practice, wanting my words to convey Love, Light, Encouragement, Motivation and Inspiration. That is my voice. That is my intention. That is my purpose.
What is your voice?
What is your intention?
What is your purpose?
May you find yours and may you develop your Art of Communication.
With Love and Light,
I have had incredible mentors and teachers throughout my life. The above quote continues to resonate with me and influences my daily decisions.
Do what is right!
It sounds simple – however sometimes it is not easy.
However, the right thing is Always the Right Thing to Do!!!!
So when you are faced with making a decision and you are not sure which way to go:
You cannot control how others will react. However, know that when you stand for what you truly believe in, and for what is right, it will all be okay.
With Love and Light,
I admit it. I look at things from the perspective of “Yes, I can.”
Have I always been like that? For most of my life I believe yes I have.
I was born 6 weeks premature and weighed a little over 4 pounds. I guess I just couldn’t wait to come into this world! I feel that arriving early has instilled in me:
Aside from some articles that speak to less than optimum character traits that could stem from being premature, I am thankful to be who I am.
Regardless of whether you were born premature or full term – You can choose how you think, feel and live your life.
Everyday we have the ability to shift our thinking, choose our thoughts, and create our lives.
We decide whether to be happy or sad, positive or negative, optimistic or pessimistic, thankful or resentful, being accountable or blaming others.
Of course, life happens and situations and conditions appear that we have to deal with. It is our attitude, our approach, the course of action we decide upon, that create how we get through to the other side.
And we will get through.
I have found that self-talk is key.
Take a few minutes to reflect on your self talk. By shifting what you say you will dramatically change.
It is all up to you. Dwell in possibility or dwell in impossibility. Your choice!
As Audrey Hepburn said: Nothing is impossible, the word itself says “I’m possible!”
To a Life filled with Possibilities!
With Light and Love,
You may at first say – I don’t need to write it down – I always remember! However we have so many To Do’s, so many thoughts, feelings, intuitions, and ideas all through the day and night, that we sometimes do forget. It happens. We all can use help. And a simple easy method.
Writing down your thoughts, your tasks, your desires, your goals, your ambitions, and your preferences is key to successfully accomplishing them.Whether your preference is a To Do List, a journal, a scribble on a post it note, handwritten or keyed, find what works for you.
Because it does work!
It sounds so simple – however we resist.
Distractions, procrastination, a belief that you could just as easily remember.
I guess it is through experience that we learn what really works and what doesn’t.
And yes, it is true that what works for me may not work for you.
However, it is worth trying!
As we kick off 2019, I am making my lists of preferences, desires, goals, objectives, and interests that I would like to accomplish in the year – both professionally and personally.
I usually start with the objectives I set out for myself in 2018 and ask several questions.
Which did I achieve?
Which ones did I not? and Why?
Is the goal still relevant for this year?
What other things do I want to add?
What is important to me?
What are my desired outcomes?
What challenges could I face?
Questions are necessary to better identify what it is you truly desire.
For it is only then that you can make it happen.
Because you do make it happen! Not anyone else.
It is not going to happen just because.
You need to work the program. You need to be invested.
It is your Life!
You create it.
You can change it.
You are the key ingredient.
So as you kick off 2019, take the time to make your list, write in your journal, use the post it note, or key your thoughts into your computer, or phone, or tablet.
Do what works for you!
And remember to post your list in one or more prominent places to remind you of your intentions.
Read them every day. Sometimes several times a day.
Occasionally you may decide to modify mid year. That is perfectly okay.
The important thing is to stay focused and committed.
Here is to accomplishing all you set out to do in 2019.
With Love and Light,
As we transition from 2018 into 2019, I thought I would send everyone Wishes for a Happy New Year using a prayer wheel.
Why a Prayer Wheel you ask?
A prayer wheel is a spiritual tool for widely distributing loving, compassionate and kind blessings with your positive wishes for yourself, all those you care for, as well as all [sentient] beings.”
We all can benefit from these blessings!
While visiting Bhutan last month, we had many opportunities to spin prayer wheels while hiking to Monasteries, Dzongs and villages. I found myself turning the wheels and reciting mantras, feeling comforted and at peace. I am still relishing that experience.
Buddhists use prayer wheels to spread spiritual blessings to all beings and invoke good karma in their next life. They believe that every rotation of a prayer wheel equals one utterance of a mantra, thus the religious practice will in return help them accumulate merits, replace negative effects with positive ones, and hence bring them good karma.
The religious exercise is part of their life. People turn the wheel day and night while walking or resting, murmuring the same mantra.
The main mantra is: Om mani padme hum. a well-loved Buddhist mantra commonly translated as, “The jewel is in the lotus.”
Every one of the Buddha’s teachings is believed to reside within this one powerful mantra. It is repeated over and over again to invoke the loving and unconditional qualities of compassion. Whether said out loud or silently to oneself, this is one mantra you’ll want to practice to connect with your innately loving and compassionate nature.
Whatever your religion or spiritual practice, be open to receive these blessings for a Healthy, Happy, Prosperous and Peaceful New Year.
Focus on what you desire in 2019 – Do not allow the disruptions and distractions in the world to negatively impact you.
Know that you control your destiny. You have the power over you.
Regardless of what things appear to be, come back to what you know is the Truth.
Take the time in the next few weeks to outline and refine your intentions. Set challenging, though reasonable goals. (You want to achieve them right?!)
Reassess your priorities. Find your balance. What works for you may and probably is different than others. That is okay. We are all unique individuals with our own preferences, desires, and ambitions.
Be true to you. And know that you can always reassess, refine and make adjustments as you move forward. Be guided by what feels right.
And have an incredible New Year.
With Light and Love,