TRICK – It’s New Meaning

I just learned a great acronym for the word Trick.

  • T  Trust   
  • R  Respect
  • I   Independence
  • C  Collaboration
  • K  Kindness

I read about the meaning in an article about Esther Wojcick, longtime educator and matriach of the Silicon Valley family.((mother of Susan Wojcicki (the CEO of YouTube), Janet Wojcicki (a Fulbright winner), and Anne Wojcicki, cofounder of 23andMe)). She developed this clever and catchy acronym a while ago and includes it in her new book, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results.  It is one of her secrets to cultivating effective and ethical leaders.The book offers essential lessons for raising, educating, and managing people to their highest potential.

I especially appreciate how she included kindness into the equation.  In the work environment too often this powerful trait is looked at as weak or not important.  However the opposite is really the truth – being kind to others in your word, tone, and manner, shows your compassion and empathy, which makes us more connected. That is incredibly powerful and so needed in the work place.

These abilities are key to a leaders success.  They help one build a true team that can accomplish anything set in front of them.  It allows for each member to shine,  to speak their truth, to make a contribution, to remain curious and ask questions, to experiment with processes and to find their path.

We all want to be heard.  We all want to feel appreciated.  We all want to be acknowledged.  Sure, we may make mistakes.  That is how we learn.  That is how we grow.  That is how we identify the best next step. So allow your team to flourish and be.  Monitor them, give constructive feedback, keep them on track, but most important, give them space. Allow them to think for themselves, stumble and fall, and get back up.  You will be pleasantly surprised and proud of what they will be able to accomplish!

If you are a leader in the workplace, reflect on whether you exemplify TRICK.  If you do, congratulations. If not, then I would encourage you to find out more and experiment with it.

Outside of the work environment, can TRICK also be helpful.  Absolutely! It applies to all relationships – professional, personal, private and public, crossing all boundaries and walls. With your children, parents, spouses and partners, siblings and friends. Everyone. We all deserve to be treated and to treat others using the TRICK technique.

With Love and Light,

Karen

 

 

 

Inspired by Melinda Gates

Over the last few days, I have been inspired by articles and interviews about Melinda Gates.  With the launch of her book, The Moment of Lift, the press coverage has been incredible.  And for good reason.

She is a powerful, compassionate, successful and influential woman who has done remarkable work on behalf of women, children, health, education and so much more.

Alongside her husband, they have committed their life to helping others and to improve the lives of everyone.  Their foundation has made substantial investments into so many good causes that are positively impacting the world. What better way to spend the fortune they have created?

What strikes me is Melinda’s genuine concern for others.  She is determined to get to the truth and truly understand the issues.  She listens.  Really listens.  Through listening and learning, we are able to better determine the best next steps to resolve the challenges.  And we uncover other potential problems as well that need our attention.

Melinda is a great storyteller!  She is honest and relatable.  She is not hesitant to tell us of her conflicts, frustrations, and how she dealt with them.

She stands up for her rights and is the voice for others that may not be able to speak out as freely.  

I so respect her drive, enthusiasm, and determination.  I will next read her book and after digesting it, I will look at how I can better serve others.

In my own way, what can I do to Lift up others.  For we all can.  In our own way, we make a difference.  

I had a professor once that said as long as he reached one student – it was all worthwhile.

What difference will you make?

Here’s to your Moment of Lift!

With Love and Light,

Karen 

 

Persistence

In the morning during our coffee time together, my husband and I talk about what is on our mind, what revelations have we had, how we feel, the outline of the day, and so much more.  My husband’s thought today was the power of Persistence.

Why is persistence important? Can we succeed without it?  Does it really help us or hinder us?

I have always attributed my accomplishments and successes to my persistence!  Once I set my mind to something, develop the strategy and set the objectives, I usually stay focused and determined to see it through. I added that dedication and commitment are 2 traits that also strengthen the ability to remain persistent.

Sometimes it is not easy.  There are twists and turns, U turns and detours. Uphills to climb and downhills to slide.  Doors open and close.  The weather changes.  I experience all kinds of feelings – joy, happiness, frustration, upset, defeat, self doubt, criticism, always though, keeping my determination. The way I handle these feelings is to say a mantra, like “:I can do this.”

All achievements take persistence.  Before, during, and after.  Too often we may think that once we achieve our objective, we can then go onto the next.  True, however we cannot forget to continue doing the work on all our intentions. Persistence gives us the strength to do what is necessary to continue obtaining the results we desire.

  • In riding a bicycle, you need to continue pedaling. And sometimes you get a flat tire. Sometimes you fall off.  However you get back up.
  • In planting flowers, you need to water, fertilize, weed and nourish. Some plants flourish, some get diseased. You learn what works and make adjustments.
  • Running a race, you need to continue putting one foot in front of the other. Positive self talk strengthens and motivates you. As does deep breathing and mantras.
  • When creating – be it writing, painting, sculpting, building, baking…… you want to bring to the world your inspirations. Sometimes you get stuck and have to start again gaining a new perspective. Sometimes you want to just quit.  But that little voice within knows you can do it.
  • When you want to lose weight, you set a goal, adjust your diet and change your lifestyle to include exercise.  You are doing great, then you decide to stop and revert to your former habits.  What happens?  The weight comes back. You stopped being persistent in achieving your goals.  

Sound familiar?  We have all been there, done that.  What is important is that we learn the lessons.  In order to keep the achievement alive, we use our persistence to maintain it.  We develop the right habits and routines that nourish us and sustain us.

We stay dedicated, determined and commit to success!

Here’s to your Persistence!

With Light and Love,

Karen

 

 

  

 

Doing the Dishes

I just read an article about Bill and Melinda Gates doing the dishes together. I had read before that Bill enjoys doing them alone and how he went into a very zen state. He considered it very therapeutic and meditative.

The article discusses the importance of sharing chores and how that impacts the balance in a relationship.  I can personally vouch for that.  My husband is the dishwasher in our house!  I do the prep and cooking.  He does the clean up. Even though we have a dishwasher, since it is just the 2 of us, it is easier to do the dishes by hand.  My husband enjoys listening to music or a book while mindfully washing.  

In every relationship, be it personal or professional, there should be agreements on how the “work” is to be done.  Communication is key to understanding.  Nothing should be taken for granted. There is a give and take.  And sometimes we could switch off.  Trade places.  Rebalance the responsibilities.

In today’s world, the labels of “Man’s work versus Woman’s work” is not relevantt anymore. Just because it has been one way for generations, does not mean that it needs to be the same way now.

We all possess both female and male characteristics.  However, some may not feel comfortable thinking that way or showing their true natures. When one suppresses their nature, resentments can build up.

Free yourself of what has been.  Do what feels right.  If you love to cook, then cook.  If you love to do the laundry, do the laundry.  It does not matter whether those tasks were once only done by a female or male.  Do what suits you. 

And remember, the objective is to share the responsibilities. Be a true partner. Be a member of the team. (TEAM = Together Everyone Achieves More).

Happy sharing!

With Light and Love,

Karen

 

 

 

 

 

Walking with Purpose

Walking is a great form of exercise.  Just about everyone can do it. It does not take much gear other than the right clothes and right athletic shoes.  You can do it indoors – however I much prefer being outdoors.  One can listen to music or hear the birds, wind, and waves.  One can excite all the senses as you see, hear, touch, smell and even taste your surroundings.
Set your own pace and go! Some days may be a fast pace, other days slower.  Mix it up.  Some days go up hill, go down hill, just do it.  I prefer walking on the sand beaches or trails in our neighborhood- however sidewalks work just as well.  The important thing is to do it – and ideally every day. Invigorating!
It is also a great time to devote to reflection and renewal. Your walk can become your Walking Meditation.  Set an intention. This is your time.  Yes – if outdoors, be aware of crosswalks, lights, traffic and other pedestrians.  And be aware of all your thoughts and feelings.
A long time friend of my husband’s and now mine, shared the following with me regarding his daily walk.
“Surprisingly the most spiritual part of my day is an eight minute walk from my house to Crunch. This is where I work out. Reason being I want to be clear and focused for my work out. This is my preparation.  I try to refrain from any thinking processes. That would be dinner, who is joining me, movies, TV, what was said to me yesterday, all of those things.  None of these things are now and not part of my preparation. The importance of my eight minute walk is a major issue.  Sometimes you and Charles join me but it doesn’t deter, it helps.  But just you two so I arrive at Crunch clear and focused.  Now I’m ready for the best workout possible.  It of course will vary from day to day.  Sometimes part of my workout on my lifecycle will be 20 minutes and then sometimes an hour.  But I still remain clear and focused.   Lately I’ve been doing 5 miles in 35 minutes.  It can also take 45 minutes depending on my rpm’s.  Like I say it varies.  But I’m there everyday.  So that takes care of before, during and now after.  After has to do with how I feel about what I just accomplished.  And of course it feels right to me.”

I want to acknowledge Michael for sharing his daily ritual with me and now you.  And congratulations to Michael for celebrating his 80th birthday recently!  What I loved about his sharing was how he utilized the 8 minutes to center and focus himself for his workout.  He prepared.  He got himself in the right mental state to then maximize his exercise program.   

Next time you find yourself in a walking mode, how will you use the time?
With Love and Light,
Karen

Double Yolks

Last night I cracked open 2 eggs for dinner.  And to my surprise, both eggs had double yolks!

When I get a double yolk which I do from time to time, I get excited. I see it as a sign of Good Luck and Prosperity.  However in looking up its significance, especially since I had never cracked 2 at the same time, I found several other possible meanings. The first was someone or you were going to have twins.  Well that’s out having turned 65 last year!  And no one that I know as of this moment is pregnant.  Then the 2nd meaning was a family member was ready to die.  I took a moment to pray for everyone and wish them good health.  At present, all appear to be doing well. And perhaps the meaning of dying was not in the physical form. It could be regarding someone’s old beliefs and patterns no longer serving them.

I intend to focus on the most positive and uplifting message of having Good Luck and Prosperity. I thanked the Universe for the blessing of the double yolks and their significance. I know I have a choice in what I believe.  You do too!

Every moment we create our Life.  What are you choosing to believe, dream, create, accomplish, fulfill? What drives you? What energizes you? What motivates you?  Sure there are outside influences that could present detours along the way.  However you are powerful enough, strong enough, wise enough, and determined enough to make it happen the way you want.

We have the ability to shift our thinking to what serves us best. Not what others think, but what we think.  So the next time you crack open your eggs and get a double yolk or 2, Think Good Luck, Prosperity, and the Limitless Possibilities.

With Light and Love,

Karen

 

Learning New Things

For me, Life is one continual learning experience.  Sometimes it can be exciting and exhilarating. Sometimes it can be frustrating and a challenge.  However it is always full of adventure, surprises and accomplishments. For example: I recently purchased a new camera.  Granted I already have 2 that have served me well. However, I wanted more bells and whistles to continue taking great pictures of our many travels. (Inspirational Book #3 here we come?!)

So what do I do with my 2 cameras. I decide to enter into the world of online selling.  I am excited to offer items in great condition for others to enjoy.  Some questions: What site, What price, What pictures, How descriptive, How to pack, Do I offer Free Shipping?
Into research mode I go!                                                              
 
I decide on a site, I read through the how to’s, I create a draft version of my listing and I revise a few times before I actually hit the list button.  Excited and Nervous.
 
Within a few hours I receive multiple offers – and over asking price.  Wow!
However, soon to discover that some of the buyers are suspect and I learn how better to vet them.  Lesson learned.
The team at the resale site were incredibly helpful to resolve the fraud.
Now I am back up with the cameras.  Learning as I go along.  Doing my due diligence and being careful on choosing the best buyer.
 
I have learned many lessons during this experience. I almost gave up when the 1st outcome was not positive, however I decided not to throw the chess board up in the air!  (I did that once during my teens when I was outmaneuvered).  Not the best behavior or approach. Check lesson learned – If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again. So that is what I did.
 
That is what I suggest you also continue to do.  Master your craft.  Make the mistakes. Take the detour.  Turn right not left.  Or make the U Turn. It is only through experiencing, making mistakes, learning the lessons, that you can then move forward.
I call it the dance of life.
Yes, I have stepped on toes and have gotten stepped on as well.  But I recover.  Laugh it off.  And go on. 
To your Life full of learnings, lessons, and experiences. 
    
With Light and Love,
Karen

Spring Into Action

I have to admit I was kind of hibernating, especially early mornings and after sunset.!  In California?  Yes in Sunny Southern California.  I have lived on the West Coast now for over 40 years.  However I do not remember as cold, or rainy, or windy as this past season.  Granted, living at the beach for the last 6 years is a different cold than from Pasadena. The damp cold is for me a bit more chilling – refreshing yes, but still I feel it more.  Even with that said,  I would not live anywhere else! So layered looks are my favorite, from silk turtleneck base layers under heavy sweaters to polartec, scarves, headbands, gloves and puffer vests.  Bring it on!

Spring though is beginning to radiate through!  We are starting to thaw out now as the sun shines brightly and the sky is blue with just a few puffy clouds.  Love it!  I get inspired and energized to spend more time outdoors – especially in the gardens that I have neglected.  What will I find?

Spring cleaning is a term used I recall mostly for sprucing up the home – clearing out closets, updating the color palette, lightening the comforters and blankets, bringing in more color and refreshing the space with new home fragrances, flowers and plants.

I also use the term for outside landscaping to bring in more color, switch out some of the plants that did not make it through the heavy rains and cold. Refresh and Renew.

Another way to use the Spring Cleaning term is to go within oneself.  Identify the thoughts that no longer serve you.  Look at your rhythms and routines and make the appropriate adjustments. Are you spending enough time in Self Reflection? Are you reading articles, books or magazines that inspire and keep you in a positive state of mind? Look at what is working, what needs to improve, what you want to have happen.

Are you setting intentions for your goals, desires and dreams? What experiences do you want to have? What sights do you want to see? What countries or cities do you want to explore?

Look at your fitness and exercise activities – are you satisfied with what and how you are doing? How do you feel?

What about your nutrition? Are you fueling your body with nutrient rich vegetables, fruits, and the right proteins, carbs, fiber and fats? Are you satisfied with your weight and your physical form?

What keeps you busy?  Are you involved in meaningful projects that keep you challenged, motivated and inspired? Or do you veg out on social media, streaming, or video games?

Spring into Action!  Let the new season motivate you to Do what is good for You. Visualize, make an action plan, commit and then take Action. And remember to have Fun!

With Love and Light,

Karen

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mantras for Life’s Marathons

As I write this, the LA Marathon is underway!!!!! I congratulate all  the runners participating this year.  I have great memories and photos of my 1st time running through the streets of LA. Hard to believe it was 31 years ago!  And I decided the day before! My husband was running and we were going to pick up his bib at the Expo. As I am today, back then I also was a steady, consistent daily runner – though had not trained for 26.2 miles. However I decided that I would do it – The longest I had ever run before that was an 18 miler.  So what was a few more miles!  I told myself that if there was not a long line to sign up at the Expo – I would.  And guess what – no long line.

The next day, I joined my husband at the start, we had our own paces but I was able to catch up and we finished together!  Trust me – it was not easy at times. And I did feel it the day after. But I came through without any injury and was pumped enough to then do many more through the years.  In reading articles about pacing and how to succeed in finishing over the last few days, a key factor was reiterated over and over again. Have a mantra to inspire you to keep going. I believe mine then was ‘Yes you can!”

One’s Self Talk is so important.  We all need encouragement when faced with Life’s Marathons disguised as many things – both positive and challenging – starting a new job, moving, a health issue, a breakup, an accident, wanting to lose or gain weight, a relationship conflict, financial concerns, uncertainty, being promoted, being laid off, buying a house or car, graduating from college and deciding on your career move.  So many challenges in our day to day life.

What do we need? Positive self talk that encourages and inspires us.  Be it a mantra, or just your go to word or phrase, having one does work. However you have to use it!  And if the one you have does not feel right, you can easily create a new one.  Or even have different ones for different things.  

A mantra for when you first wake up in the morning. One for when you are engaged in work, one when you are exercising, one when you are sitting in traffic, one when you are feeling stressed or nervous.  Using your mantra, repeating it out loud or to yourself, creates vibrations that inspire, that calm, that motivate, that enliven and re-energize you.

What’s your mantra?

With Light and Love,

Karen

Celebration of Life

On Friday, I celebrated 14 years cancer free.  A day does not go by that I do not give thanks for being alive.  I am forever grateful and thankful that I am blessed to continue experiencing Life.  Not everyone does. Every year I continue to send a card to my incredible doctors thanking them for their contribution to my Life – Dr. Lynda Roman, Dr. Stuart Garber, Dr. Grace Bautista.  Without them, I would not be here today.

Why does it take a jolting experience, so often an illness or some type of physical, mental, or emotional condition, to make us realize what a gift Life is?  And when we are given another chance, more time to Live Life, it is the perfect opportunity to review how we live, how we think, how we act, who we engage with, what we do, and don’t do!  Priorities shift.  Preferences are reviewed.  Adjustments made. We reconsider what is really important.

I thought I was living a healthy lifestyle through my choices – right thinking, right eating, exercise, Loving relationship, successful career, good friends. When I was diagnosed, I did not dwell on “Why Me.” (Well, maybe for a very brief moment) I knew deep down that would not help me get through it. I continued to remain positive, committed to Living because I wanted to. And for those that know me, you know I am determined to find the way – fix the problem, find the solution. That is who I am. However, I needed to Reflect, Renew, Refresh!  Just like my journal title so clearly states.

After my successful surgery, I recommitted myself to healthy foods and nutrition, running, yoga, time for me.  I recommitted to spending more time with my husband and enjoying our adventures, experiences and pleasure in each other’s company. I recommitted to balancing work life and personal life. I continued to focus on positivity, optimism, the power of the mind. I watched what I read, what I listened to.  I ensured that our home was a sanctuary of peace and Love.  Every room has reminders of Love, Life, Peace and Harmony with sculptures, paintings, photos of us on our travels, books of our spiritual and Life coaches and so many treasures that bring Joy.

Every day I affirm Life.  Before I even get out of bed in the morning, I recite my affirmations.  Throughout my runs, I give thanks, and before I fall asleep, I give thanks and appreciation for another day to Live my Life.

I encourage you if you are going through a rough time, if you are facing a challenge, affirm what you desire.  Stay positive, stay committed, do what you need to do to bring the right outcome.

Surround yourself in Self Love and Acceptance.  Surround yourself with Joy.  Take the time to Reflect, Renew, Refresh your thinking and being. Embrace your life.  Be appreciative and grateful.

With Love and Life and Gratitude,

Karen